While some men strongly believe that foreplay is a nuisance only women love, others think that this is the sexiest part of making love. Either way, it doesn’t matter if you’re trying to make love to your wife or you’re about to have some sexy time with a girl you picked up on a BBW dating website, there are some things about foreplay you should know. This is why we want to look into 14 essential tips that will allow any guy to please his lady in the best way possible, so go ahead and keep reading.


  1. Massage

Although we can get a lot of wrong ideas from movies, massaging your partner is actually one of the best ways to initiate foreplay and therefore sex. Moreover, it’s a relaxing activity that includes a fair amount of physical contact – what more could you ask for?


  1. Talk About it

Instead of trying out various things you saw in porn movies, it’s always smarter to talk to your partner and try to find out what turns her on. Explain that you want to make sure you do all the right things to her and, believe us, she’ll appreciate it.


  1. Easy Start

If you’re thinking of oral sex, try not to go in too hard. Clitoris play is always a good idea, but it’s much better to start things off softly and to increase the intensity over time.


  1. Quality over Quantity

It’s not all about doing things long and without pause – you have to feel her rhythm and then follow it. That way, you’ll have to do much less to get your woman excited.


  1. One-Trick Pony

Stimulating her clitoris as part of the foreplay is fun and all, but it’s always better to expand your repertoire a bit. Being a one-trick pony isn’t fun for too long.


  1. Labia-Play

Men often think of the labia as a simple border of the vagina, while some even call them the “curtains to the main show.” However, this part has nearly as many nerve endings as the clitoris, which means it also deserves your attention.


  1. Figure 8

One of the best ways to give head to a woman is to use the figure 8. This basically means that you should move your tongue on and around the clitoris so that you draw the shape of the number 8. It drives women crazy for some reason!


  1. No Talking

Sure, there are some girls who love dirty-talking during foreplay, but most of them don’t. In that regard, try not to talk too much during this time.


  1. Exploring the Areas

The crotch is the erogenous zone for most women, but there are other parts of them that can also be fun to play with. We’re talking breasts, buttons, legs, belly, hips and more.


  1. Her Feelings

Each and every one of us is different, which means we all prefer different stuff. Pay attention to how she feels about the things you’re doing during foreplay and you’ll quickly figure out what works and what doesn’t.


  1. Your Feelings

Just like your lady, you have feelings as well. This is why you shouldn’t force yourself to do things you aren’t comfortable with – after all, sex is compromise.


  1. Rewards

In most cases, men are those who initiate foreplay and sex. So, if she’s the one making the first step, make sure you put in extra effort to make that foreplay amazing.


  1. Kissing

Foreplay is a lot of things, but the most fundamental part of it is kissing. Don’t forget to give her a kiss every once in a while during foreplay to let her know you’re not doing all this just because you like sex, but because you like her.


  1. Calculate

There’s no denying that foreplay is fun. However, not everyone is always in the mood for it. Sometimes foreplay can ruin everything, so try to assess the situation and determine whether it should even be included in the process.


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As the founder and CEO of Wasteland.com, the Internet's oldest and most popular BDSM and alternative sexuality site, Colin Rowntree is a true pioneer of the online adult entertainment industry. Since launching Wasteland.com in 1994, Colin has developed a network of sites that encompasses the full breadth of adult business sectors, from content production and distribution to affiliate program management, mobile content delivery to transaction processing, just to name a handful. Colin's stature within the adult industry is reflected by the many honors and recognitions he has received over the years from adult industry media outlets and trade organizations, including his 2011 induction to the Adult Video News (AVN) Hall of Fame. Colin was also the recipient of the 2011 Leadership Award from the Free Speech Coalition (FSC) and winner of multiple awards from other adult media outlets.

Most recently, Colin co-founded Boodigo.com, a privacy-focused adult internet search engine that supports the adult industry in many ways.

An eloquent, witty and thought-provoking commentator, Colin is a frequent contributor to industry trade publications and websites, including Adult Video News and other media outlets. He has been interviewed by and featured on International Business Times, CNBC, Rolling Stone Magazine, BBC Television, the Fox Network, HBO, ABC Nightline, NewsCorp, Time and Wired magazines, Cnet.com and Bnet.com.Most recently, Colin was awarded the 2015 Progressive Leadership of the Year XBIZ Executive Award.
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