How to give an Erotic Massage

Massage is an age-old concept of using your hands to help someone relax their muscles and nerves by applying pressure and performing certain movements. And while the basic massage concept is pretty clear, it has also evolved to have an erotic variation that can be utilized in hetero, gay, BBW, transgender and cougar dating.

But, as you can imagine, giving an erotic massage isn’t easy. It takes some skill, knowledge, and practice before you can perfect the process of being an erotic masseuse for your spouse, which is why we’re here to give you a few tips so that you can start from something.


  1. Ambiance

The first and foremost thing you have to do is set up a stage. Having the proper atmosphere is of crucial importance because you can’t really give a good massage if the surroundings don’t fit the mood properly.

Therefore, you should ensure that your partner has a comfortable place to lay on, that the light isn’t too bright in the room (nor too dimmed) and that there’s no noise around you. You can even go as far as to play some ambiance music and light a few scented candles, as all this augments the enjoyment that massage brings, especially an erotic one.


  1. Tools of the Trade

You’ll be wise to have some massage oil you can use. It’s also good to have some lubricant at hand since we’re talking about an erotic massage here.

Place the oil bottle in a cup of warm water so that you can get your hands warm as quickly as possible. The massage oil is there to make it easier for your hands to move around while also warming up your partner’s body. The lubricant is for, well, whatever comes after.


  1. Small Tricks do the Job

Now let’s talk about those small tricks all masseurs know that can make any massage feel like a walk in the clouds.

You can start things off by lightly touching your partner with dry hands. Use long, gentle strokes all across their body to prepare them for the main course. Once you feel like they’ve relaxed a bit, apply the warm massage oil we’ve mentioned earlier and begin caressing their body while still applying some dose of pressure.

Now for the erotic part. To get the full effect of the erotic massage, keep massaging your partner until you feel they have completely let go of any tension and stress. Once that happens, you can apply some lubricant to your hands and begin targeting some more erogenous zones of their body.

For instance, if you were working on their hands, back and neck in the beginning, now would be the time to focus on their chest, thighs, buttocks, lower back and stomach. As soon as you notice your partner starting to squirm around while you’re dangerously approaching their nether area, you can move on the main course.

This is where things can go in many different directions. Depending on what you and your partner prefer, you can get naked and hop on them or you can keep working on them until they reach climax. Either way, it’s a fun experience that both of you will appreciate.

For Women – Should You Be Having Sex During Period?

For about 30 or so years, you’ll get your period about once a month. An average period lasts from 3 to 8 days, and if you find yourself towards the end of this spectrum, you’re obviously wondering how much time goes to ‘waste’ when you can’t or shouldn’t have sex. The thing is, unless you’re particularly embarrassed to do it while on your period, medically speaking there is no reason why you should skip it, if you use condoms. Obviously, if cougar dating is your thing and you don’t want to scare your little cubs away, you might want to avoid the bedroom if you can leave blood on the sheets, but other than that feel free to enjoy your sex life regardless of where you are in your menstrual cycle for the reasons we discuss below.

#1: The Benefits of Having Sex While on Your Period

Orgasms can help relieve your menstrual cramps without putting you at any risk. Menstrual cramps are a result of your uterus contracting to release its lining, and when you have an orgasm, the muscles of your uterus also contract, and release. This release can reduce the discomfort of menstrual cramps. Also, during sex, we release chemicals called endorphins which make us feel better and are nature’s own anti-depressants that do wonders against feeling down when menstruating.

Having sex while on your period can make your period shorter because an orgasm helps push out the contents of your uterus faster. Also, if you’re one of those women whose libido is through the roof during your period, why let it go to waste, especially given the fact that blood acts as a natural lubricant?! Last but not least, many women who have migraines report that they get them during their periods. Although many choose to spend those days under the covers alone, women who do have sex say that it completely or partially relieves their headaches.

#2: The Side Effects of Having Sex While on Your Period

The biggest side effect of having sex while menstruating is the mess. You can leave blood all over the sheets or your partner if you have a heavier flow, and anxiety or embracement over this can take away some of the fun. Also, you’re advised to always use protection when having sex, and being on your period doesn’t change anything in that department. On the contrary, unprotected sex increases the risk of transmitting STDs, especially those viruses that live in the blood, such as HIV or hepatitis, which is why using a condom during this time is a no-brainer. Lastly, forgetting to remove your tampon results in a visit to a doctor because it will get pushed so far up that you won’t be able to remove it yourself. In other words, don’t forget it!

Can You Still Get Pregnant?

To some women, getting pregnant isn’t a side effect, but if you’re not actively trying to conceive you should use protection because there is still a chance you could get pregnant if you have sex while menstruating. Obviously, the odds of conception are lower, but if your menstrual cycles are short those odds actually increase. Since this isn’t the kind of math you could ever do with absolute certainty, it’s best not to have unprotected sex and have your peace of mind.

Is It Normal to Masturbate Every Day?

Sex can take many different forms, from straight man-on-woman in the missionary pose to hookups found on BBW and transgender dating sites that turn into full-blown BDSM sessions. Still, there is something that we all share, that everybody partakes in and that has been around since the beginning of mankind – masturbation.

Although it’s a common part of everyone’s life (whether you want to admit it or not), there are certain people out there that will tell you it’s not okay and not healthy to masturbate at all. And while that’s completely bogus, let’s take a look at the idea of day-to-day masturbation and whether it has any negative effects on your life.

Benefits and Advantages

First and foremost, let’s assess this situation from a physical point of view. Masturbating every day may seem like a tedious task to some, but if you ask those who do practice it,  you’ll notice that they don’t feel like they have an obligation or chore that they have to fulfill daily.

It’s very well documented that masturbation is healthy for both men and women. Physically, it helps keep our reproduction organs healthy, in good shape and always ready for action, and psychologically, it’s a pretty good way to relieve stress and figure out your own sexuality.

Many sex experts out there say that solo time is a crucial part of any relationship. This is mostly because it’s a perfect way for you to learn about your body, your erogenous zones, what turns you on the most and so on, which can later be applied to having sexy time with your partner.

Going Overboard

So far, we couldn’t find any downsides to masturbation, at least in the psychological and physical sense. The only problem that may come from it is actually caused by ourselves – or rather how we implement masturbation into our everyday lives.

Medically, there’s absolutely nothing wrong and there are no risks posed by day-to-day masturbation. However, if you can’t properly introduce this wonderful activity into your daily schedule, you may run into some problems in other fields.

A good example of this would be running late for work because you simply had to masturbate right this moment. Another scenario would be actively avoiding sex with your partner because going downtown by yourself feels so good.

Bottom line, it’s all about the way we handle it. Too much of anything is never good, but in this case, it’s not because of the nature of masturbation.

There are a lot of people out there (especially men) that have masturbation sessions every day or at least almost every day and they can function just like any other human out there. If you can find a way to insert masturbation into your everyday life so that it doesn’t come into conflict with your other activities or duties, then by all means – go for it.