For Women – Lingerie and Dress Up as a Birthday Gift?

Why not – nowhere does it say it has to be the only gift. And even if it were, men just go crazy when a girl puts on a little bit of lace and silk. Some of us feel silly dressing up in sexy lingerie for a boyfriend/husband who’s seen us naked a million times, and speaking of naked, there are plenty of girls out there who feel much better without any clothes on, lingerie included. On the other hand, most guys out there can’t resist sexy bras, panties, nighties, and so on because they are a huge turn on. Regardless of whether your biker dating days are long gone because you’ve been married for years or you’ve just met a hunk you want to impress, buying sexy lingerie and presenting yourself as his birthday gift is a great idea, and below we discuss the reasons why.

#1: A Trial Period

If you’re not the type to wear lingerie to bed often, we suggest a little experiment to see how your partner reacts to it. Try wearing different lingerie to bed every night for seven nights in a row. Mind you, pick any week in your calendar no matter how busy or tired you both are because that’s how you can get the least biased experiment data. If you pack a bag full of lingerie for your vacation, you won’t get a true feel for the situation because everything is much easier when you’re away from your daily responsibilities. Pick a random week and see if the magic happens. In all likelihood, it will, especially if you take your partner by surprise. You can expect to set your sex life on fire with this move, and he’ll only beg you for more.

#2: Wear What You’re Comfortable In

Your partner finds you sexy no matter what you put on, which is why there is no need to wear any kind of lingerie that you’re uncomfortable in just because you think he’d like it. Obviously, you’d take his wishes into consideration, but you wouldn’t put on something that makes you feel ridiculous or unpleasant. The reason for this is simple – you’re the sexiest when you feel sexy. If his birthday falls on a weekend and neither of you has to go to work, purchase a few sexy lingerie outfits and play dress up in the morning, in the afternoon, and at night, but don’t tell him that in advance. If it’s a work day, get one outfit and make him a cake, and make sure you use the frosting for foreplay. There are lots of ways you can take this one gift that you’re really not buying for him, and turn it into a memorable birthday surprise.

#3: What He’ll Love the Most

If you get more than one lingerie outfit or if you have sex more than once off of one outfit, what your partner will love the most in the intimacy and the fact that you’re feeling particularly close to one another because you did something outside of your regular routine. Notwithstanding the fact he’ll love your desire to please him, what he’ll enjoy even more is the confidence that you bring into the bedroom. Don’t even for one second think that any of it is fake because you’re wearing something that usually just sits forgotten in the bottom drawer. The lingerie is just a little nudge in the right direction where the fireworks await.


5 Things That Stop Women from Having an Orgasm

When you’re into biker dating it’s hard to imagine that anything can stop you from reaching an orgasm! However, since you can’t focus solely on your sex life and have other things you need to take care of, more often than not you can find yourself in a situation where you miss an orgasm. As frustrating as this is, we’d like to draw your attention to a few things that are a sure buzz kill so you can try your best to avoid them whenever possible.

#1: Sitting Too Much at Work

Being glued to your desk chair certainly makes your boss happy, but it also interferes with your body’s ability to have an orgasm. Sitting all day shortens the pelvic muscles, which can lead to pelvic pain, which makes having an orgasm next to impossible. In order to prevent this problem, set an alarm as a reminder to move every half an hour to an hour while at work. Sneak into the kitchen or the conference room and stretch your hip flexors with back bends, squats, and butterfly stretches.

#2: Not Telling Your Partner What You Want

Just like you can’t read his mind, he can’t read yours either. If you stay silent during sex about what really turns you on, the whole thing is likely to end in disappointment. Every person is different and the motions and angles that work for some women don’t work for others. Or, you might be in the mood for one thing but your partner keeps ‘insisting’ on another. In other words, your only option is to speak up! A soft moan or a touch of a hand can make all the difference, and if you can’t tell him directly, there are ways to show him. Just move his hand where you want it, and remember that most men consider it a huge turn-on when a woman is that confident to ‘direct’ them in bed.

#3: You Don’t Make Noise

From the evolutionary perspective, human females make noise during sex as to alert other members of the ‘pack’ not to disturb them, and to encourage their males to make love to them. At the same time, being vocal during sex actually does wonders for women because it makes their pleasure stronger and longer-lasting. So, if you really like what your partner is doing, say it! Embracing these sensations can help you tune out the rest of the world and maximize your pleasure.

#4: Your Medication Might Be Interfering

You know how every medication comes with a list of side effects? Well, read it carefully! In so many instances medication that is prescribed to women either negatively affects their libido or makes natural vaginal lubrication a thing of the past. If your drugs cause an increase in prolactin levels, a libido-inhibiting protein, you might not be able to climax as easily as before. Blood pressure medication, birth control pills, and anti-depressants are the usual suspects. Also, antihistamines interfere with a woman’s ability to self-lubricate, which can make sex uncomfortable.

#5: A Full Bladder Isn’t Helping

We all know that peeing after sex reduces the risk of a urinary tract infection, but it’s often a good idea to go beforehand as well. It can be incredibly hard to have an orgasm when your bladder is full because instead of being in the moment, you’re feeling the pressure to pee. Also, taking a quick pee break mid-sex can kill the mood for both you and your partner, so make sure you make a quick trip to the bathroom before you get busy under the sheets.


11 Outdoor Summer Dating Ideas

When it comes to creative and inviting dating ideas, nobody does it better than a girl crazy in love during the honeymoon phase. He’s bound to go along even if some of these ideas are girly because he wants to get to know you better in every way possible! Obviously, most of these ideas can be used in later stages of a relationship given how flexible BBW dating generally is, but they’re also outdoorsy and suited for the summer months when the temperatures are high both inside and outside the bedroom. Below you’ll find quirky, sexy and definitely captivating date ideas that you can start implementing ASAP before the fall hits!

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Abigail Mac Takes on the Largest, Most Intense Film Project of her Career

Abigail Mac Takes on the Largest, Most Intense Film Project of her Career, Shows Off Her Sultry Side in Big Budget Tushy Feature, Abigail and Executive Producer Greg Lansky are proud to introduce Abigail, an erotic adventure like no other film project ever created, starring Abigail Mac in her first-ever anal and DP star showcase.

Abigail stars as a stunning and calculated seductress who has found the perfect vocation for her particular skill set as a high paid homewrecker for the rich and famous. Handling the accounts is her boss, Christian, with whom she’s developed a sexual fixation that suits her needs, and at her side is Markus, Christian’s new hire. Love doesn’t stand a chance.

The full-length big-budget 3+ hour feature, which will be available as a five-episode series released throughout August and September at, was written and directed by adult superstar Kayden Kross, who showcases Abigail as she has never been seen before alongside co-star Markus Dupree in his first lead feature role, and stars Lena Paul, Kissa Sins, Prince Yahshua, Mick Blue, Mickey Mod, and Jax Slayher.

According to Greg Lansky, “Abigail is the biggest production in the history of my company. You can feel an aspect of her personality in her character… I’ve never seen anything like this movie in my life.”

Kross shot the scenes against a glorious sun-drenched Southern California backdrop, and the breathtaking visuals represent a turning point for the studio, as well as for Abigail Mac herself.

Lansky elaborates that the film, “doesn’t fit into any category… it transcends categories and questions the definition of what an adult film is.”

“Abigail Mac has been the most underrated performer in the industry, this movie changes that,” adds Lansky, praising the star’s ability to give a piece of herself to each scene. “This is Abigail and her star power is undeniable.”

For more information about Abigail visit or follow @tushy_com, @greglansky and find Abigail Mac at

The Must Love Fetish podcast shines a light on real people living with mild to wild fetishes or kinks.

This weekly podcast hosted by professional online Dominatrix & phone sex operator, SweetlySensual_Sara, features an interview style format to help better understand the psychology behind certain fetishes & kinks, & what it is like to live with one.


I’m Sara and I like to refer to “Must Love Fetish” as the ‘kinky podcast for vanilla folk’


It took me a good year to find the courage to answer the phone, and when I finally did, I ended up falling in love with it completely. I never could have predicted that at the age of 30 I would discover my real calling. Phone sex, surprisingly, was not what I had imagined it to be. I quickly appreciated that times have changed and that phone sex no longer was about sharing a crummy booth with twenty other girls (all with curlers in hair and cigarettes dangling from their mouths.) Au contraire, phone sex amazed me and left me stupefied by the misconception I had of it.

The majority of my callers want to mostly talk about their fetishes and are looking for escapism – a way to explore their sexual secrets and real desires without having to deal with the fear of being shunned. I have been doing phone sex for almost two years and have gradually built up a very dedicated clientele for myself. These are all men that I thoroughly enjoy talking to and our sessions usually last on average about an hour. My adoration for my work and my clients has taken me on a pleasurable journey and has afforded me the opportunity to talk to and get to know some of the most remarkable people imaginable. I have spoken to people from all walks of life – people in finance, the arts, doctors, lawyers, the fortunate, the not so fortunate, the married, the divorced, the widowed, the somewhat vanilla, the extra kinky – and as diverse as these people are, I quickly realized that they all have one thing in common – and that is that they all need someone to talk to about their fetishes and kinks. They need a way to express their sexuality without restrictions or the unpleasant feeling of judgment.

As a result of my work as a phone sex operator, I have been led on my own path of self-discovery and wanting to gain a better understanding of these different fetishes and kinks – so much so that I have made the decision to obtain my PhD in Human Sexuality with an eventual emphasis on the male gender and fetishes. What makes me stand out from the rest of them, is the fact that I have a sincere curiousity and consideration for my callers and listeners and am always looking for up-to-date and thought-provoking approaches to help and engage them. I am thrilled to call myself a student of sexology and am looking forward to one day having my own professional in-person practice. Since starting work as a phone sex operator, I believe that I have gotten to know myself better and for the past two years have been non-stop researching, studying, and getting involved with different fetish and kink communities across the world. I have this website that I am very proud of and my podcast “Must Love Fetish” was specifically created to help people understand fetishism better. I realized that there are a lot of people out there who will never have the opportunity to pick up a phone to do a call, so this is for the silent ones who would like to learn more about themselves without having to take the leap. It is my biggest hope to help my clients and listeners who are seeking answers for themselves, or even those who are seeking answers for a loved one, to eventually find those answers by listening to Must Love Fetish. It is my goal to help my clients uncover their true sexual capabilities, to live the life that they are truly worthy of, and to help them find that one thing that could lead to a path of greater self-discovery.

I hope that you’ll consider being on the show in order to educate and inform others so together we may create a more sex-positive society from here on out.

I have interviewed many different people with many different fetishes and kinks. Some fetishes/kinks that I have had on the show include: coulrophilia (clown fetish), rubber masks, fembot, cuckold, swinging, BDSM, Financial Domination, and sissy boys, to name a few.

My interviews are all conducted over Skype and last between 30 minutes and an hour.

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Thanking you in advance for your time.
Kinky regards,
Sara xo

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