You might think that the only people who are struggling to initiate sex are seniors or members of the disabled dating niche, but you would be wrong. A lot of singles, regardless of their age, physical characteristics, or social status, are having problems when it comes to seduction. Therefore, if you too are having similar difficulties, check out these six reasons why that might be the case and nine tips that will help you initiate sex with your partner.
Reasons Why You Might Be Struggling
You’re Afraid Of Rejection
Fear of rejection is one of the most common reasons why men and women struggle with initiating sex. Being rejected can crush your confidence and self-esteem, so it’s perfectly reasonable to hesitate sometimes.
You’re Ashamed Of Your Body
Not all women are swimsuit models, and not all guys have perfect six packs. Most people out there are actually rather ashamed of their naked bodies. This can be a big problem when it comes to seduction.
You Play With Yourself Too Often
Don’t get us wrong, masturbation is healthy, but if you play with yourself too often, you might lower your sex drive.
You’re Not Confident In Your Sexual Skills
Watching porn and adult movies might teach you a thing or two, but it can also make you doubt your own sexual skills. Remember, those people are professionals, their moves should be better than yours.
You Want To Feel Desired
A lot of men and women need to feel desired in order to have sex. If you’re the same, you’re probably expecting your partner to make the first move.
You Have Some Relationship Issues You Need To Resolve
Resentment, frustration, boredom, and lack of trust are most common problems couples have. All of these issues may negatively affect your sex drive.
Tips On How To Initiate Sex
Put On An Outfit You Know Your Partner Likes
If you want to seduce your significant other, you just have to put on your sexiest outfit. It will boost your confidence, and that’s half the battle.
Since we mentioned confidence, we have to say that being self-assured is crucial when it comes to initiating sex. People are attracted to confidence.
If you want to seduce your partner, you must never beat around the bush. State your intentions and be direct.
Use Physical Contact
Some people have troubles saying what they want. If you can’t express your desires through words, use your hands.
Create The Sexy Mood
Dimmed lights, soft music, champagne, and incense sticks will help you create a sexy atmosphere.
Know Where To Kiss Your Partner
You probably kiss your partner on the lips every single day. To make them horny, you need to change your routine. Kiss their neck, chest area, and stomach. Don’t hesitate to go south.
Say The Words
If all of this is too elaborate for you, just say what you want from your partner openly. Saying that you want someone can be really hot.
Try To Role Play During A Foreplay
As you probably know, foreplay is a crucial part of every sexual encounter. If you have problems with initiating sex, you might benefit from changing the routine every once in a while by trying some role-playing.
Sexting Is Always Fun
Smartphones are definitely one of the biggest advantages of this modern day and age. Use this benefit to send your partner some tasteful nudes and thus initiate a love-making session.
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As the founder and CEO of Wasteland.com, the Internet's oldest and most popular BDSM and alternative sexuality site, Colin Rowntree is a true pioneer of the online adult entertainment industry. Since launching Wasteland.com in 1994, Colin has developed a network of sites that encompasses the full breadth of adult business sectors, from content production and distribution to affiliate program management, mobile content delivery to transaction processing, just to name a handful. Colin's stature within the adult industry is reflected by the many honors and recognitions he has received over the years from adult industry media outlets and trade organizations, including his 2011 induction to the Adult Video News (AVN) Hall of Fame. Colin was also the recipient of the 2011 Leadership Award from the Free Speech Coalition (FSC) and winner of multiple awards from other adult media outlets.
Most recently, Colin co-founded Boodigo.com, a privacy-focused adult internet search engine that supports the adult industry in many ways.
An eloquent, witty and thought-provoking commentator, Colin is a frequent contributor to industry trade publications and websites, including Adult Video News and other media outlets. He has been interviewed by and featured on International Business Times, CNBC, Rolling Stone Magazine, BBC Television, the Fox Network, HBO, ABC Nightline, NewsCorp, Time and Wired magazines, Cnet.com and Bnet.com.Most recently, Colin was awarded the 2015 Progressive Leadership of the Year XBIZ Executive Award.