Massage is an age-old concept of using your hands to help someone relax their muscles and nerves by applying pressure and performing certain movements. And while the basic massage concept is pretty clear, it has also evolved to have an erotic variation that can be utilized in hetero, gay, BBW, transgender and cougar dating.
But, as you can imagine, giving an erotic massage isn’t easy. It takes some skill, knowledge, and practice before you can perfect the process of being an erotic masseuse for your spouse, which is why we’re here to give you a few tips so that you can start from something.
The first and foremost thing you have to do is set up a stage. Having the proper atmosphere is of crucial importance because you can’t really give a good massage if the surroundings don’t fit the mood properly.
Therefore, you should ensure that your partner has a comfortable place to lay on, that the light isn’t too bright in the room (nor too dimmed) and that there’s no noise around you. You can even go as far as to play some ambiance music and light a few scented candles, as all this augments the enjoyment that massage brings, especially an erotic one.
Tools of the Trade
You’ll be wise to have some massage oil you can use. It’s also good to have some lubricant at hand since we’re talking about an erotic massage here.
Place the oil bottle in a cup of warm water so that you can get your hands warm as quickly as possible. The massage oil is there to make it easier for your hands to move around while also warming up your partner’s body. The lubricant is for, well, whatever comes after.
Small Tricks do the Job
Now let’s talk about those small tricks all masseurs know that can make any massage feel like a walk in the clouds.
You can start things off by lightly touching your partner with dry hands. Use long, gentle strokes all across their body to prepare them for the main course. Once you feel like they’ve relaxed a bit, apply the warm massage oil we’ve mentioned earlier and begin caressing their body while still applying some dose of pressure.
Now for the erotic part. To get the full effect of the erotic massage, keep massaging your partner until you feel they have completely let go of any tension and stress. Once that happens, you can apply some lubricant to your hands and begin targeting some more erogenous zones of their body.
For instance, if you were working on their hands, back and neck in the beginning, now would be the time to focus on their chest, thighs, buttocks, lower back and stomach. As soon as you notice your partner starting to squirm around while you’re dangerously approaching their nether area, you can move on the main course.
This is where things can go in many different directions. Depending on what you and your partner prefer, you can get naked and hop on them or you can keep working on them until they reach climax. Either way, it’s a fun experience that both of you will appreciate.
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